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5 Tips For An Anxious-Avoidant Relationship

Hello Everyone! It’s been a while and I have missed connecting with you! My little man and I are doing well. Now that he is six months old, we are getting into somewhat of a routine… somewhat. While adjusting to the busy norms of parenthood, I have not forgotten about the blog: in fact, I […] Read more…

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How to Stay Sane Waiting for Him to Call

This article was originally written for drwendywalsh.com You had a great first date (or two) and think you hit it off. There has been a bit of contact since your date and you are waiting to see if things are going to progress. The uncertainty leaves you feeling powerless—like you have no control over the […] Read more…

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How To Cage Your Relationshipzilla

I am sure that you would consider yourself a rational and sane person. Well, most days. Have you ever wondered how you can go from a normal rational person to a relationshipzilla in about 60 seconds flat? Relationshipzilla is loosely defined as that monster that rears its head anytime we feel our relationship is in […] Read more…

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The Bungee Cord Breakup

  Like the wildly popular book suggests, it truly is a break up because it’s broken. Generally, breakups happen when there have been many attempts to better the relationship and nothing works. I am obviously in favour of trying to restore relationships and don’t take the ending of a relationship lightly, but that being said, […] Read more…

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Getting Off the Roller-Coaster: Breaking Out of the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle

Last week we covered the dynamics of the roller-coaster relationship and why it can be so addictive. Attachment research suggests that if we are paired with a secure partner we are less likely to experience this roller-coaster dynamic. But what happens if we are not paired with a secure partner? If we have invested in […] Read more…

Understanding the Needs of the Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style

Understanding the Needs of the Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style

I recently read Attached by Amir Levine and it has really opened my eyes to the importance of understanding attachment dynamics in our relationships. This article is based on content from the book and I highly recommend you read it if these attachment style articles resonate with you. Last week we covered how to decode […] Read more…