Anxious Attachment

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5 Tips For An Anxious-Avoidant Relationship

Hello Everyone! It’s been a while and I have missed connecting with you! My little man and I are doing well. Now that he is six months old, we are getting into somewhat of a routine… somewhat. While adjusting to the busy norms of parenthood, I have not forgotten about the blog: in fact, I […] Read more…

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Dealing with Uncertainty in Relationships

Many of us are familiar with the term anxiety. It is a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome (thanks Google!). A feeling of worry about an uncertain outcome. Hmm, I find this so interesting! We are a generation that loves to know what to […] Read more…

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How to Get Close to the Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style

I like to keep an eye on the Google search terms that lead readers to my blog. One of the questions that many of you ask is “how to get close to a dismissive/avoidant attachment style?” or “how do I get a dismissive/avoidant attachment style to fall in love?” I have never tackled this question […] Read more…

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5 Common Relationship Thought Traps Faced by the Anxious Attachment Style

If you are living and breathing, chances are you get caught in a thought trap every once in a while. No one is completely immune. We can however become more aware and identify these unhelpful ways of thinking. Thought traps, also known as cognitive distortions, are ways that our minds convince us of something that […] Read more…

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How to Stay Sane Waiting for Him to Call

This article was originally written for drwendywalsh.com You had a great first date (or two) and think you hit it off. There has been a bit of contact since your date and you are waiting to see if things are going to progress. The uncertainty leaves you feeling powerless—like you have no control over the […] Read more…

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Is There Hope for the Insecurely Attached?

This article was originally written for http://www.scienceofrelationships.com I can recall the specific day that sparked my endless pursuit to understand attachment and relationships. I was sitting in an undergraduate class lecture when my professor introduced the concept of attachment styles (read more about attachment styles here). I was so intrigued. The professor explained that roughly 50-60% of the […] Read more…

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The Difference Between a Relationship Need and Want

Often times we confuse what we require and what we desire in relationships. We make a list of all the important traits we want in a partner, with very little concept of what we really need in our relationships. Our lists often include items about physical appearance, the level of income or career, and may […] Read more…

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The Interdependent Relationship: Letting go of Codependence and Extreme Independence

Our culture praises independence. We are taught to be strong, never reveal weakness, and above all never rely on others. In theory this approach works great. Never open up to anyone, never rely on anyone, and never get hurt. But this belief has led to one of the most isolated and disconnected cultures to ever […] Read more…

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How To Cage Your Relationshipzilla

I am sure that you would consider yourself a rational and sane person. Well, most days. Have you ever wondered how you can go from a normal rational person to a relationshipzilla in about 60 seconds flat? Relationshipzilla is loosely defined as that monster that rears its head anytime we feel our relationship is in […] Read more…

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Dating 2.0: Revolt Against the System!

The dating system is inherently flawed and the only solution for daters is to REVOLT! We are all pretty much used to the dating “system”: we meet someone, get their number, text, go on a couple of dates, hook up and if all goes well build a lasting relationship with each other. But, more often […] Read more…

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