Anxious Attachment

surviving a breakup

Surviving a Breakup: A Plan to Override Your Relationshipzilla

You have consumed a bucket of ice cream, gone through boxes of tissue, and watched every movie and TV series on Netflix in an effort to drown your sorrows and numb the invisible pain. You make every attempt to try and take your mind off of it, yet you still feel like it haunts you. […] Read more…

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The Bungee Cord Breakup

  Like the wildly popular book suggests, it truly is a break up because it’s broken. Generally, breakups happen when there have been many attempts to better the relationship and nothing works. I am obviously in favour of trying to restore relationships and don’t take the ending of a relationship lightly, but that being said, […] Read more…

6 Myths that Keep Women From Dating “The Good Guys”

6 Myths that Keep Women From Dating “The Good Guys”

Last week we discussed how some of us women get stuck in a pattern of dating “bad boys” who are not well suited to meet our emotional and relational needs. Part of the problem, aside from our addiction to roller coaster bad boy relationships, is that women are constantly blowing off great, secure men. I […] Read more…

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Is Love Worth the Risk?

To love or not to love, that is still the question. As we discussed last week, we all have a story of heart break in our lives. We begin life young, naïve, and overly trusting. We wear our hearts on our sleeves and depend upon others to meet our needs. Then, we inevitably get our […] Read more…

Discover your attachment style

Discovering Your Attachment Style: Google Hangout with Dr. Wendy Walsh, Dr. Sue Johnson and Erica Djossa

We currently live in a “hook-up” relationship culture. As Dr. Wendy Walsh would say, we are in a high supply sexual economy. Women are liberated, are not relying on men, and as a result sexual expression is at its peak. Doesn’t it all sound wonderful? BUT there is a catch! Sex is being traded so […] Read more…

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The Difference Between Having a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and Being Fearful of Relationships

We all have a story of heartbreak in our lives. We can remember the first time we fell in love, too hard too soon, and inevitably got our heart broken. For some, this led to hardening our hearts and swearing to never give anyone that much power over it/us again. Others may have taken this […] Read more…

rollercoaster relationship

Getting Off the Roller-Coaster: Breaking Out of the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle

Last week we covered the dynamics of the roller-coaster relationship and why it can be so addictive. Attachment research suggests that if we are paired with a secure partner we are less likely to experience this roller-coaster dynamic. But what happens if we are not paired with a secure partner? If we have invested in […] Read more…

rollercoaster relationship

Are You Addicted to the Roller-Coaster Relationship?

Ah, the roller-coaster relationship. You know exactly what I am talking about. You have either seen one or have experienced it first hand. They are over the top relationships that are in blissful ecstasy one moment, and plummeting to the depths of dysfunction the next. They are characterized by a pattern of extremes, either high […] Read more…

The Secure Attachment Style: What We Can Learn From The Super-Mates of Relationships

The Secure Attachment Style: What We Can Learn From The Super-Mates of Relationships

When reading about securely attached individuals, do any of you scratch your head and wonder how these anomalies exist in the world?  Okay, maybe it’s just me. But these individuals have been coined the super humans of evolution and make up roughly 50% of the population. When first starting out on my journey, I had […] Read more…

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Understanding the Needs of the Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style

Do you ever wonder how you can go from a completely sane and confident person, to a clinging or withdrawing relationshipzilla in about 60 seconds flat? Welcome to the world of attachment systems and romantic attachment styles. We all possess an attachment system. It is a mechanism in our brain that is responsible for monitoring […] Read more…

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