Last week we covered the dynamics of the roller-coaster relationship and why it can be so addictive. Attachment research suggests that if we are paired with a secure partner we are less likely to experience this roller-coaster dynamic. But what happens if we are not paired with a secure partner? If we have invested in…
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Attachment Pairings: Finding the Best Fit
I have been asked on several occasions, which attachment styles pair best. Well, here is the moment you have all been waiting for! We have laid the foundation of the various attachment styles and their differing needs in relationships. Going through and understanding the varied needs is helpful and gives us great insight into why…
The Secure Attachment Style: What We Can Learn From The Super-Mates of Relationships
When reading about securely attached individuals, do any of you scratch your head and wonder how these anomalies exist in the world? Okay, maybe it’s just me. But these individuals have been coined the super humans of evolution and make up roughly 50% of the population. When first starting out on my journey, I had…
Decoding Your Partner’s Attachment Style
Happy Valentines Day Everyone! If any of you know me at all yet, you would know that I can’t write about superficial ways to make your valentines day the most amazing day of your life. It should be an awesome day in a string of other awesome days in your relationship. So if you are…
The Dismissive/Avoidant Attachment Style
So far in this series of articles we have covered an Introduction to Attachment Styles and the Preoccupied Attachment Style. Taking the time to read these articles before continuing into the current topic may be helpful as they help to lay a foundation of attachment styles and how they play a role in romantic relationships. Just to briefly…
The Preoccupied/Anxious Attachment Style
The first article in this series was the Introduction to Attachment Styles. It provides a brief overview of attachment theory and may be helpful for you to read before getting into this week’s article on preoccupied attachment. Preoccupied attachment style is characterized by a person who has a negative view of themselves and a positive view of…
Introduction to Attachment Styles
The concept of attachment has become increasingly prevalent in psychology and other interdisciplinary fields. The basic assumption is that infants and children form a unique bond with their primary caregiver that effects how they will interact with the world. When infants form an attachment with a caregiver that is warm, consistent and responsive, their attachment…