The health of our relationships is a lot like our physical health. We need to take steps to stay healthy, including regular check-ups. Take a moment to answer the questions below for a quick Relationship Check-up: EMOTIONAL CONNECTION I feel like my partner truly knows me…TRUE / FALSE I feel like I truly know my partner…TRUE…
Tag: Connection
Soul Mates: Real or Imaginary Creatures?
I was shaped significantly, as we all are, by my parents’ relationship. Their marriage, although not perfect, seemed to be filled with love, commitment, and a deep abiding respect for each other as individuals. My parents would often refer to themselves as soul mates. With my young, simplistic view of the world, I made it…
What Attachment Style is The Bachelorette’s Andi Dorfman?
This article was originally written for www.scienceofrelationships.com So I have a confession to make, and you have to promise not to judge me. I am totally “fangirling” over the current Bachelorette Andi Dorfman. There is something remarkable about her, and whatever it is generating some polarizing opinions. Oh, and did I mention that Andi was…
Dating 2.0: Revolt Against the System!
The dating system is inherently flawed and the only solution for daters is to REVOLT! We are all pretty much used to the dating “system”: we meet someone, get their number, text, go on a couple of dates, hook up and if all goes well build a lasting relationship with each other. But, more often…
The Bungee Cord Breakup
Like the wildly popular book suggests, it truly is a break up because it’s broken. Generally, breakups happen when there have been many attempts to better the relationship and nothing works. I am obviously in favour of trying to restore relationships and don’t take the ending of a relationship lightly, but that being said,…
6 Myths that Keep Women From Dating “The Good Guys”
Last week we discussed how some of us women get stuck in a pattern of dating “bad boys” who are not well suited to meet our emotional and relational needs. Part of the problem, aside from our addiction to roller coaster bad boy relationships, is that women are constantly blowing off great, secure men. I…
The Domesticated Bad Boy Does Not Exist
I have a bone to pick ladies. How can we go around complaining about how our men treat us when we are the ones that pick them? You wouldn’t believe the amount of times I have seen women discard nice, secure, supportive men! I hear women say that the guy they are dating is just…
Is Love Worth the Risk?
To love or not to love, that is still the question. As we discussed last week, we all have a story of heart break in our lives. We begin life young, naïve, and overly trusting. We wear our hearts on our sleeves and depend upon others to meet our needs. Then, we inevitably get our…
Attachment Pairings: Finding the Best Fit
I have been asked on several occasions, which attachment styles pair best. Well, here is the moment you have all been waiting for! We have laid the foundation of the various attachment styles and their differing needs in relationships. Going through and understanding the varied needs is helpful and gives us great insight into why…
Understanding the Needs of the Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style
Do you ever wonder how you can go from a completely sane and confident person, to a clinging or withdrawing relationshipzilla in about 60 seconds flat? Welcome to the world of attachment systems and romantic attachment styles. We all possess an attachment system. It is a mechanism in our brain that is responsible for monitoring…