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5 Tips For An Anxious-Avoidant Relationship

Hello Everyone! It’s been a while and I have missed connecting with you! My little man and I are doing well. Now that he is six months old, we are getting into somewhat of a routine… somewhat. While adjusting to the busy norms of parenthood, I have not forgotten about the blog: in fact, I […] Read more…

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How to Get Close to the Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style

I like to keep an eye on the Google search terms that lead readers to my blog. One of the questions that many of you ask is “how to get close to a dismissive/avoidant attachment style?” or “how do I get a dismissive/avoidant attachment style to fall in love?” I have never tackled this question […] Read more…

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How To Cage Your Relationshipzilla

I am sure that you would consider yourself a rational and sane person. Well, most days. Have you ever wondered how you can go from a normal rational person to a relationshipzilla in about 60 seconds flat? Relationshipzilla is loosely defined as that monster that rears its head anytime we feel our relationship is in […] Read more…

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Surviving a Breakup: A Plan to Override Your Relationshipzilla

You have consumed a bucket of ice cream, gone through boxes of tissue, and watched every movie and TV series on Netflix in an effort to drown your sorrows and numb the invisible pain. You make every attempt to try and take your mind off of it, yet you still feel like it haunts you. […] Read more…

The Domesticated Bad Boy Does Not Exist

The Domesticated Bad Boy Does Not Exist

I have a bone to pick ladies. How can we go around complaining about how our men treat us when we are the ones that pick them? You wouldn’t believe the amount of times I have seen women discard nice, secure, supportive men! I hear women say that the guy they are dating is just […] Read more…

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Getting Off the Roller-Coaster: Breaking Out of the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle

Last week we covered the dynamics of the roller-coaster relationship and why it can be so addictive. Attachment research suggests that if we are paired with a secure partner we are less likely to experience this roller-coaster dynamic. But what happens if we are not paired with a secure partner? If we have invested in […] Read more…

rollercoaster relationship

Are You Addicted to the Roller-Coaster Relationship?

Ah, the roller-coaster relationship. You know exactly what I am talking about. You have either seen one or have experienced it first hand. They are over the top relationships that are in blissful ecstasy one moment, and plummeting to the depths of dysfunction the next. They are characterized by a pattern of extremes, either high […] Read more…

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Attachment Pairings: Finding the Best Fit

I have been asked on several occasions, which attachment styles pair best. Well, here is the moment you have all been waiting for! We have laid the foundation of the various attachment styles and their differing needs in relationships. Going through and understanding the varied needs is helpful and gives us great insight into why […] Read more…

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Understanding the Needs of the Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style

Do you ever wonder how you can go from a completely sane and confident person, to a clinging or withdrawing relationshipzilla in about 60 seconds flat? Welcome to the world of attachment systems and romantic attachment styles. We all possess an attachment system. It is a mechanism in our brain that is responsible for monitoring […] Read more…

The dismissive avoidant attachment style

The Dismissive/Avoidant Attachment Style

So far in this series of articles we have covered an Introduction to Attachment Styles and the Preoccupied Attachment Style. Taking the time to read these articles before continuing into the current topic may be helpful as they help to lay a foundation of attachment styles and how they play a role in romantic relationships. Just to briefly […] Read more…