The health of our relationships is a lot like our physical health. We need to take steps to stay healthy, including regular check-ups. Take a moment to answer the questions below for a quick Relationship Check-up: EMOTIONAL CONNECTION I feel like my partner truly knows me…TRUE / FALSE I feel like I truly know my partner…TRUE…
Tag: Love
Soul Mates: Real or Imaginary Creatures?
I was shaped significantly, as we all are, by my parents’ relationship. Their marriage, although not perfect, seemed to be filled with love, commitment, and a deep abiding respect for each other as individuals. My parents would often refer to themselves as soul mates. With my young, simplistic view of the world, I made it…
5 Common Relationship Thought Traps Faced by the Anxious Attachment Style
If you are living and breathing, chances are you get caught in a thought trap every once in a while. No one is completely immune. We can however become more aware and identify these unhelpful ways of thinking. Thought traps, also known as cognitive distortions, are ways that our minds convince us of something that…
How to Stay Sane Waiting for Him to Call
This article was originally written for drwendywalsh.com You had a great first date (or two) and think you hit it off. There has been a bit of contact since your date and you are waiting to see if things are going to progress. The uncertainty leaves you feeling powerless—like you have no control over the…
Is There Hope for the Insecurely Attached?
This article was originally written for www.scienceofrelationships.com I can recall the specific day that sparked my endless pursuit to understand attachment and relationships. I was sitting in an undergraduate class lecture when my professor introduced the concept of attachment styles (read more about attachment styles here). I was so intrigued. The professor explained that roughly 50-60% of the…
The Difference Between a Relationship Need and Want
Often times we confuse what we require and what we desire in relationships. We make a list of all the important traits we want in a partner, with very little concept of what we really need in our relationships. Our lists often include items about physical appearance, the level of income or career, and may…
The Interdependent Relationship: Letting go of Codependence and Extreme Independence
Our culture praises independence. We are taught to be strong, never reveal weakness, and above all never rely on others. In theory this approach works great. Never open up to anyone, never rely on anyone, and never get hurt. But this belief has led to one of the most isolated and disconnected cultures to ever…
How To Cage Your Relationshipzilla
I am sure that you would consider yourself a rational and sane person. Well, most days. Have you ever wondered how you can go from a normal rational person to a relationshipzilla in about 60 seconds flat? Relationshipzilla is loosely defined as that monster that rears its head anytime we feel our relationship is in…
Dating 2.0: Revolt Against the System!
The dating system is inherently flawed and the only solution for daters is to REVOLT! We are all pretty much used to the dating “system”: we meet someone, get their number, text, go on a couple of dates, hook up and if all goes well build a lasting relationship with each other. But, more often…
The Bungee Cord Breakup
Like the wildly popular book suggests, it truly is a break up because it’s broken. Generally, breakups happen when there have been many attempts to better the relationship and nothing works. I am obviously in favour of trying to restore relationships and don’t take the ending of a relationship lightly, but that being said,…