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Do I Have An Attachment Injury?

Have you ever been injured? The answer is likely yes. We have all sustained some kind of injury in our lives. Many of us bare physical scars of that time we fell off the monkey bars or incurred a sport injury. Although they are now healed, these scars are constant reminders of the trauma or […] Read more…

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Relationship Check-Up

The health of our relationships is a lot like our physical health. We need to take steps to stay healthy, including regular check-ups. Take a moment to answer the questions below for a quick Relationship Check-up: EMOTIONAL CONNECTION I feel like my partner truly knows me…TRUE / FALSE I feel like I truly know my partner…TRUE […] Read more…

is their hope for the insecurely attached?

Is There Hope for the Insecurely Attached?

This article was originally written for http://www.scienceofrelationships.com I can recall the specific day that sparked my endless pursuit to understand attachment and relationships. I was sitting in an undergraduate class lecture when my professor introduced the concept of attachment styles (read more about attachment styles here). I was so intrigued. The professor explained that roughly 50-60% of the […] Read more…

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The Difference Between a Relationship Need and Want

Often times we confuse what we require and what we desire in relationships. We make a list of all the important traits we want in a partner, with very little concept of what we really need in our relationships. Our lists often include items about physical appearance, the level of income or career, and may […] Read more…

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Discovering Your Attachment Style: Google Hangout with Dr. Wendy Walsh, Dr. Sue Johnson and Erica Djossa

We currently live in a “hook-up” relationship culture. As Dr. Wendy Walsh would say, we are in a high supply sexual economy. Women are liberated, are not relying on men, and as a result sexual expression is at its peak. Doesn’t it all sound wonderful? BUT there is a catch! Sex is being traded so […] Read more…

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The Difference Between Having a Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and Being Fearful of Relationships

We all have a story of heartbreak in our lives. We can remember the first time we fell in love, too hard too soon, and inevitably got our heart broken. For some, this led to hardening our hearts and swearing to never give anyone that much power over it/us again. Others may have taken this […] Read more…

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Getting Off the Roller-Coaster: Breaking Out of the Anxious-Avoidant Cycle

Last week we covered the dynamics of the roller-coaster relationship and why it can be so addictive. Attachment research suggests that if we are paired with a secure partner we are less likely to experience this roller-coaster dynamic. But what happens if we are not paired with a secure partner? If we have invested in […] Read more…

The Secure Attachment Style: What We Can Learn From The Super-Mates of Relationships

The Secure Attachment Style: What We Can Learn From The Super-Mates of Relationships

When reading about securely attached individuals, do any of you scratch your head and wonder how these anomalies exist in the world?  Okay, maybe it’s just me. But these individuals have been coined the super humans of evolution and make up roughly 50% of the population. When first starting out on my journey, I had […] Read more…

Understanding the Needs of the Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style

Understanding the Needs of the Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style

I recently read Attached by Amir Levine and it has really opened my eyes to the importance of understanding attachment dynamics in our relationships. This article is based on content from the book and I highly recommend you read it if these attachment style articles resonate with you. Last week we covered how to decode […] Read more…

Decoding Your Partner’s Attachment Style

Decoding Your Partner’s Attachment Style

Happy Valentines Day Everyone! If any of you know me at all yet, you would know that I can’t write about superficial ways to make your valentines day the most amazing day of your life. It should be an awesome day in a string of other awesome days in your relationship. So if you are […] Read more…

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