Preoccupied Attachment

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How to Get Close to the Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style

I like to keep an eye on the Google search terms that lead readers to my blog. One of the questions that many of you ask is “how to get close to a dismissive/avoidant attachment style?” or “how do I get a dismissive/avoidant attachment style to fall in love?” I have never tackled this question […] Read more…

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5 Common Relationship Thought Traps Faced by the Anxious Attachment Style

If you are living and breathing, chances are you get caught in a thought trap every once in a while. No one is completely immune. We can however become more aware and identify these unhelpful ways of thinking. Thought traps, also known as cognitive distortions, are ways that our minds convince us of something that […] Read more…

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How to Stay Sane Waiting for Him to Call

This article was originally written for drwendywalsh.com You had a great first date (or two) and think you hit it off. There has been a bit of contact since your date and you are waiting to see if things are going to progress. The uncertainty leaves you feeling powerless—like you have no control over the […] Read more…

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Is There Hope for the Insecurely Attached?

This article was originally written for http://www.scienceofrelationships.com I can recall the specific day that sparked my endless pursuit to understand attachment and relationships. I was sitting in an undergraduate class lecture when my professor introduced the concept of attachment styles (read more about attachment styles here). I was so intrigued. The professor explained that roughly 50-60% of the […] Read more…

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The Interdependent Relationship: Letting go of Codependence and Extreme Independence

Our culture praises independence. We are taught to be strong, never reveal weakness, and above all never rely on others. In theory this approach works great. Never open up to anyone, never rely on anyone, and never get hurt. But this belief has led to one of the most isolated and disconnected cultures to ever […] Read more…

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How To Cage Your Relationshipzilla

I am sure that you would consider yourself a rational and sane person. Well, most days. Have you ever wondered how you can go from a normal rational person to a relationshipzilla in about 60 seconds flat? Relationshipzilla is loosely defined as that monster that rears its head anytime we feel our relationship is in […] Read more…

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Surviving a Breakup: A Plan to Override Your Relationshipzilla

You have consumed a bucket of ice cream, gone through boxes of tissue, and watched every movie and TV series on Netflix in an effort to drown your sorrows and numb the invisible pain. You make every attempt to try and take your mind off of it, yet you still feel like it haunts you. […] Read more…

6 Myths that Keep Women From Dating “The Good Guys”

6 Myths that Keep Women From Dating “The Good Guys”

Last week we discussed how some of us women get stuck in a pattern of dating “bad boys” who are not well suited to meet our emotional and relational needs. Part of the problem, aside from our addiction to roller coaster bad boy relationships, is that women are constantly blowing off great, secure men. I […] Read more…

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Discovering Your Attachment Style: Google Hangout with Dr. Wendy Walsh, Dr. Sue Johnson and Erica Djossa

We currently live in a “hook-up” relationship culture. As Dr. Wendy Walsh would say, we are in a high supply sexual economy. Women are liberated, are not relying on men, and as a result sexual expression is at its peak. Doesn’t it all sound wonderful? BUT there is a catch! Sex is being traded so […] Read more…

Understanding the Needs of the Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style

Understanding the Needs of the Anxious/Preoccupied Attachment Style

I recently read Attached by Amir Levine and it has really opened my eyes to the importance of understanding attachment dynamics in our relationships. This article is based on content from the book and I highly recommend you read it if these attachment style articles resonate with you. Last week we covered how to decode […] Read more…

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