Have you ever been injured? The answer is likely yes. We have all sustained some kind of injury in our lives. Many of us bare physical scars of that time we fell off the monkey bars or incurred a sport injury. Although they are now healed, these scars are constant reminders of the trauma or…
Tag: Romantic Relationships
Break Ups, Hope, and Learning to Let Go
Terminating an attachment to someone we love is one of the most painful experiences we will undergo as humans. You all know what I am talking about—the dreaded breakup. If I ask you to think back, you can likely tell me about each breakup you have endured and how it has shaped your life. Even…
Relationship Check-Up
The health of our relationships is a lot like our physical health. We need to take steps to stay healthy, including regular check-ups. Take a moment to answer the questions below for a quick Relationship Check-up: EMOTIONAL CONNECTION I feel like my partner truly knows me…TRUE / FALSE I feel like I truly know my partner…TRUE…
Soul Mates: Real or Imaginary Creatures?
I was shaped significantly, as we all are, by my parents’ relationship. Their marriage, although not perfect, seemed to be filled with love, commitment, and a deep abiding respect for each other as individuals. My parents would often refer to themselves as soul mates. With my young, simplistic view of the world, I made it…
5 Common Relationship Thought Traps Faced by the Anxious Attachment Style
If you are living and breathing, chances are you get caught in a thought trap every once in a while. No one is completely immune. We can however become more aware and identify these unhelpful ways of thinking. Thought traps, also known as cognitive distortions, are ways that our minds convince us of something that…
How to Stay Sane Waiting for Him to Call
This article was originally written for drwendywalsh.com You had a great first date (or two) and think you hit it off. There has been a bit of contact since your date and you are waiting to see if things are going to progress. The uncertainty leaves you feeling powerless—like you have no control over the…
What Attachment Style is The Bachelorette’s Andi Dorfman?
This article was originally written for www.scienceofrelationships.com So I have a confession to make, and you have to promise not to judge me. I am totally “fangirling” over the current Bachelorette Andi Dorfman. There is something remarkable about her, and whatever it is generating some polarizing opinions. Oh, and did I mention that Andi was…
Is There Hope for the Insecurely Attached?
This article was originally written for www.scienceofrelationships.com I can recall the specific day that sparked my endless pursuit to understand attachment and relationships. I was sitting in an undergraduate class lecture when my professor introduced the concept of attachment styles (read more about attachment styles here). I was so intrigued. The professor explained that roughly 50-60% of the…
The Difference Between a Relationship Need and Want
Often times we confuse what we require and what we desire in relationships. We make a list of all the important traits we want in a partner, with very little concept of what we really need in our relationships. Our lists often include items about physical appearance, the level of income or career, and may…
The Interdependent Relationship: Letting go of Codependence and Extreme Independence
Our culture praises independence. We are taught to be strong, never reveal weakness, and above all never rely on others. In theory this approach works great. Never open up to anyone, never rely on anyone, and never get hurt. But this belief has led to one of the most isolated and disconnected cultures to ever…