Secure Attachment

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5 Tips For An Anxious-Avoidant Relationship

Hello Everyone! It’s been a while and I have missed connecting with you! My little man and I are doing well. Now that he is six months old, we are getting into somewhat of a routine… somewhat. While adjusting to the busy norms of parenthood, I have not forgotten about the blog: in fact, I […] Read more…

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Dealing with Uncertainty in Relationships

Many of us are familiar with the term anxiety. It is a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome (thanks Google!). A feeling of worry about an uncertain outcome. Hmm, I find this so interesting! We are a generation that loves to know what to […] Read more…

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How to Get Close to the Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style

I like to keep an eye on the Google search terms that lead readers to my blog. One of the questions that many of you ask is “how to get close to a dismissive/avoidant attachment style?” or “how do I get a dismissive/avoidant attachment style to fall in love?” I have never tackled this question […] Read more…

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Soul Mates: Real or Imaginary Creatures?

I was shaped significantly, as we all are, by my parents’ relationship. Their marriage, although not perfect, seemed to be filled with love, commitment, and a deep abiding respect for each other as individuals. My parents would often refer to themselves as soul mates. With my young, simplistic view of the world, I made it […] Read more…

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What Attachment Style is The Bachelorette’s Andi Dorfman?

This article was originally written for http://www.scienceofrelationships.com So I have a confession to make, and you have to promise not to judge me. I am totally “fangirling” over the current Bachelorette Andi Dorfman. There is something remarkable about her, and whatever it is generating some polarizing opinions. Oh, and did I mention that Andi was […] Read more…

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Is There Hope for the Insecurely Attached?

This article was originally written for http://www.scienceofrelationships.com I can recall the specific day that sparked my endless pursuit to understand attachment and relationships. I was sitting in an undergraduate class lecture when my professor introduced the concept of attachment styles (read more about attachment styles here). I was so intrigued. The professor explained that roughly 50-60% of the […] Read more…

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The Interdependent Relationship: Letting go of Codependence and Extreme Independence

Our culture praises independence. We are taught to be strong, never reveal weakness, and above all never rely on others. In theory this approach works great. Never open up to anyone, never rely on anyone, and never get hurt. But this belief has led to one of the most isolated and disconnected cultures to ever […] Read more…

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How To Cage Your Relationshipzilla

I am sure that you would consider yourself a rational and sane person. Well, most days. Have you ever wondered how you can go from a normal rational person to a relationshipzilla in about 60 seconds flat? Relationshipzilla is loosely defined as that monster that rears its head anytime we feel our relationship is in […] Read more…

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The Bungee Cord Breakup

  Like the wildly popular book suggests, it truly is a break up because it’s broken. Generally, breakups happen when there have been many attempts to better the relationship and nothing works. I am obviously in favour of trying to restore relationships and don’t take the ending of a relationship lightly, but that being said, […] Read more…

6 Myths that Keep Women From Dating “The Good Guys”

6 Myths that Keep Women From Dating “The Good Guys”

Last week we discussed how some of us women get stuck in a pattern of dating “bad boys” who are not well suited to meet our emotional and relational needs. Part of the problem, aside from our addiction to roller coaster bad boy relationships, is that women are constantly blowing off great, secure men. I […] Read more…

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