Have you ever been injured? The answer is likely yes. We have all sustained some kind of injury in our lives. Many of us bare physical scars of that time we fell off the monkey bars or incurred a sport injury. Although they are now healed, these scars are constant reminders of the trauma or…
Category: Adult Attachment Styles
5 Tips For An Anxious-Avoidant Relationship
Hello Everyone! It’s been a while and I have missed connecting with you! My little man and I are doing well. Now that he is six months old, we are getting into somewhat of a routine… somewhat. While adjusting to the busy norms of parenthood, I have not forgotten about the blog: in fact, I…
Dealing with Uncertainty in Relationships
Many of us are familiar with the term anxiety. It is a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome (thanks Google!). A feeling of worry about an uncertain outcome. Hmm, I find this so interesting! We are a generation that loves to know what to…
How to Get Close to the Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style
I like to keep an eye on the Google search terms that lead readers to my blog. One of the questions that many of you ask is “how to get close to a dismissive/avoidant attachment style?” or “how do I get a dismissive/avoidant attachment style to fall in love?” I have never tackled this question…
5 Common Thought Traps Faced by the Avoidant Attachment Style
A few weeks ago we took a look at the 5 Common Thought Traps Faced by the Anxious Attachment Style. We will continue on a similar vein this week discussing the common thought traps faced by the avoidant attachment style. Everyone with a pulse gets caught up in thought traps from time to time….
5 Common Relationship Thought Traps Faced by the Anxious Attachment Style
If you are living and breathing, chances are you get caught in a thought trap every once in a while. No one is completely immune. We can however become more aware and identify these unhelpful ways of thinking. Thought traps, also known as cognitive distortions, are ways that our minds convince us of something that…
How to Stay Sane Waiting for Him to Call
This article was originally written for drwendywalsh.com You had a great first date (or two) and think you hit it off. There has been a bit of contact since your date and you are waiting to see if things are going to progress. The uncertainty leaves you feeling powerless—like you have no control over the…
What Attachment Style is The Bachelorette’s Andi Dorfman?
This article was originally written for www.scienceofrelationships.com So I have a confession to make, and you have to promise not to judge me. I am totally “fangirling” over the current Bachelorette Andi Dorfman. There is something remarkable about her, and whatever it is generating some polarizing opinions. Oh, and did I mention that Andi was…
Is There Hope for the Insecurely Attached?
This article was originally written for www.scienceofrelationships.com I can recall the specific day that sparked my endless pursuit to understand attachment and relationships. I was sitting in an undergraduate class lecture when my professor introduced the concept of attachment styles (read more about attachment styles here). I was so intrigued. The professor explained that roughly 50-60% of the…
The Interdependent Relationship: Letting go of Codependence and Extreme Independence
Our culture praises independence. We are taught to be strong, never reveal weakness, and above all never rely on others. In theory this approach works great. Never open up to anyone, never rely on anyone, and never get hurt. But this belief has led to one of the most isolated and disconnected cultures to ever…