Many of us are familiar with the term anxiety. It is a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome (thanks Google!). A feeling of worry about an uncertain outcome. Hmm, I find this so interesting! We are a generation that loves to know what to…
Category: Personal Growth
How Can I Change My Partner’s Behaviour?
You have been incessantly fighting with your partner and you’ve had it. Turning to Google to understand the problem, you type in “how do I change my partner” and hit enter. You weed your way through all the superficial relationship advice telling you how to play games and manipulate your lover, and find your way…
Are You Trying to Out Run the “Loneliness Hangover”?
You are home alone on a Friday night. You have no plans so you get into your sweats, sit down in front of your TV with your junk food, and start the lengthy process of trying to find something to watch on Netflix. While awaiting for the first episode of your TV binge to load,…
Is There Hope for the Insecurely Attached?
This article was originally written for www.scienceofrelationships.com I can recall the specific day that sparked my endless pursuit to understand attachment and relationships. I was sitting in an undergraduate class lecture when my professor introduced the concept of attachment styles (read more about attachment styles here). I was so intrigued. The professor explained that roughly 50-60% of the…
The Difference Between a Relationship Need and Want
Often times we confuse what we require and what we desire in relationships. We make a list of all the important traits we want in a partner, with very little concept of what we really need in our relationships. Our lists often include items about physical appearance, the level of income or career, and may…
The Interdependent Relationship: Letting go of Codependence and Extreme Independence
Our culture praises independence. We are taught to be strong, never reveal weakness, and above all never rely on others. In theory this approach works great. Never open up to anyone, never rely on anyone, and never get hurt. But this belief has led to one of the most isolated and disconnected cultures to ever…
Surviving a Breakup: A Plan to Override Your Relationshipzilla
You have consumed a bucket of ice cream, gone through boxes of tissue, and watched every movie and TV series on Netflix in an effort to drown your sorrows and numb the invisible pain. You make every attempt to try and take your mind off of it, yet you still feel like it haunts you….
6 Myths that Keep Women From Dating “The Good Guys”
Last week we discussed how some of us women get stuck in a pattern of dating “bad boys” who are not well suited to meet our emotional and relational needs. Part of the problem, aside from our addiction to roller coaster bad boy relationships, is that women are constantly blowing off great, secure men. I…
The Domesticated Bad Boy Does Not Exist
I have a bone to pick ladies. How can we go around complaining about how our men treat us when we are the ones that pick them? You wouldn’t believe the amount of times I have seen women discard nice, secure, supportive men! I hear women say that the guy they are dating is just…
Is Love Worth the Risk?
To love or not to love, that is still the question. As we discussed last week, we all have a story of heart break in our lives. We begin life young, naïve, and overly trusting. We wear our hearts on our sleeves and depend upon others to meet our needs. Then, we inevitably get our…